Midnight Scare…

Stress can do a number on your mindset, muscles and even your digestion. Let me tell you a story about your body’s stress response:

You find yourself awake in the middle of the night and head to the kitchen for a glass of water. Glancing out the window, you notice a figure in the neighbor’s yard. What is your response? Your heart starts to race, your palms begin to sweat, anxious thoughts go into your mind and your muscles start to tighten. You run for the phone but when you return the figure is gone. It doesn’t matter because at this point you cannot calm down so you toss and turn the remainder of the night.
You ARE stressed!

The next morning, you see your neighbor and make sure they are aware of the situation. Your neighbor calmly apologized and mentions they have a relative who is visiting for the weekend. The strange figure in the yard was only their relative looking for night crawlers for an upcoming fishing trip. Immediately, your muscles loosen and you are almost in tears with relief when your body recognizes that specific stress as NOT harmful.

This is EXACTLY how BioEnergetic Intolerance Elimination takes care of stress symptoms. By simply reintroducing the frequency of stress triggers so your body will no longer see that trigger as stressful.

I’m Ashley, a refreshing change from the hustle-bustle, beat-you-to-the-ground, no-pain-no-game-approach when it comes to healing. I’m on a mission to help individuals just like you relax and enjoy life with a stunning healing agenda via online coaching or BioEnergetic principles. Relax, Heal & Enjoy!

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surprising stress situations

Two surprising stress situations I see as a Bioenergetic Intolerance Elimination (BIE) practitioner and stress coach:

Every person will react to stress differently showing a variety of symptoms. However, we only have three types of stressors: emotional, chemical and physical.

  • Emotional stress = anger, envy, hate, overwhelm
  • Chemical stress = virus, bacteria, drugs, pollution, junk food
  • Physical stress = x-rays, gravity, cell phones, temperature

The body will respond to each stress with a physical response such as elevated blood pressure, tension in muscles, slowed digestion, hormone changes and the release of sugars and fats from body storage. Most things as a BIE practitioner are not surprising and are addressed based on symptomatic complaints. However, two common stress related issues are definately not mentioned in everyday conversation.

RADIATION – Exposure to Electro-Magnetic Fields (EMF), especially man-made EMF’s such as cell phones, WIFI or microwaves, have research to explain the adverse effects over human health. The research shows an alarming link to chronic inflammation. This makes it difficult for the body to heal or rejuvenate, especially since we are unable to get away from these devices. As technology advances and the habit of keeping devices close to the body, we are unable to recover from environmental stress.

WATER – We assume that because we are drinking the recommended amount of water daily our bodies are well hydrated. This actually depends on whether or not we can assimilate our drinking water. A variety of minerals found within our drinking water can be rejected; therefore, the water rejected. Alarmingly, the majority of individuals who walk into my office are intolerant to their own drinking water and become dehydrated from malabsorption.

Homeostatic imbalance is simply caused by discordant energies in the body due to a stressor that is usually considered harmless. We definitely think of water as harmless. Even if we have done the research on cell phones and what they can do to our health we ignore the facts due to the simple enjoyment and convenience they offer to our life. When your body is imbalanced, it may not recognize the energy frequencies or various substances, ultimately causing stress on the body. You may have experienced some of the following stress related symptoms of water and EMF’s yourself; headaches, fatigue, hormonal imbalances or insomnia. Join my community to find more stress related information: http://bit.ly/2vmmy4S

Disclaimer: BIE practitioners are not medical doctors and do not use medical diagnostic or treatment procedures. The services performed by BIE practitioners are at all times restricted to consultation on the subject of nutritional matters or homeostatic imbalances, and does not involve diagnosing, curing, prognosticating, treatment or prescribing of remedies for the treatment of disease or any act, which will constitute the practice of medicine in this country in which a license is required.


This paints a picture of my family life with year round seasonal allergy symptoms:

Personally – I rotated my allergy medication with Claritin in the morning and Benadryl in the evening, took a steroid inhaler once per day and a rescue inhaler 2-3 times per day, added a decongestant that I would have to pick up from the pharmacy weekly since they have a restriction on how many pills you can purchase at one time and weekly clinic visits for allergy shots.

Child – I also was rotating my son’s allergy medication with Allegra in the morning and Benadryl in the evening and sublingual allergy drops under the tongue three times a day.

Along with the medications and allergy visits we also allergy proofed our home. We had an air purifier running in the bedrooms, allergy mattress coverings, limited stuffed animals, dog kenneled away from sleeping areas and we took the carpet out of the master bedroom to replace it with hard floors.

Feeling a little trapped by our medication cabinet and outlook on life, I started looking into alternative approaches. I tired changing diets, acupuncture, homeopathic remedies, essential oils and herbal remedies. We were feeling relief but still consumed with this new natural agenda. I took a leap of faith and attempted BIE for the first time almost 3 years ago in Estevan, Canada. My family finally found relief that relaxed out lifestyle. I am now a BIE Practitioner myself because of my passion to help families eliminate these same restrictions. To be clear, I do not treat or diagnose asthma or allergies. I can bring the body back to balance which allows the body to heal, minimizes triggers and boosts the immune system. Looking at my son now, you would never guess that he had suffered from multiple allergies in his toddler years. I no longer take my steroid inhaler and my rescue inhaler has not been filled for 3 years (I do not recommend going off any medication without prior approval from your physician). I do not take seasonal medication and I do not follow homeopathic or herbal therapies (unless I am detoxing or using them as additional support). I feel relaxed and free from the asthma and allergy “game” that we used to play in our home. Relax, Heal and Enjoy!

Trust: is it missing in your life?

I learned something very valuable from a family that recently came to visit my office. They called about 2 months prior to set up an initial appointment. The drive was 9.5 hours with a young family of five so it took some arranging and organization. The mother set up her appointment to heal some health concerns she was dealing with and up to this point she had not found relief. I assumed with all the planning involved they were well aware of what they were walking into when they arrived at my door. My first question to anyone who walks in the door is “what do you know about BIE and how did your referral explain what it is that I do?”. I do this to get a better feeling for my initial explanation since in the mid-west BIE is almost non-existent. This was my surprise and how this specific family answered my question:

The couple looked at each other a little confused and slightly concerned. They both shook their heads and said… I guess we don’t know what BIE is or what you do. They proceeded to let me know that they had spoke to their referral once over the phone but didn’t discuss BIE or the approach. What they did mention is that they made the appointment based on how the referral felt after a few short visits. They arranged their schedule to make this work based on one strangers story. I took a deep breath and shook off my shock to fill them in on what they needed to know before the appointment. I made a mental note to start working on trusting others in my own life.

Why not take another person’s experience at full value? What would I have to lose at this point in my live? Here is how that same situation was different in my experience.

I found BIE online and saved it in my bookmarks. My son and I went through symptoms for years while I searched for stories and for anything online to give me validity. After searching and coming up with a few things that made sense I called to find more information from the closest practitioner. Once receiving the information, I went to my close family circle to find out their opinions. If everything checked out, which let’s be honest that doesn’t happen very often, I would make an appointment. I had a number of skeptic opinions along that path and it actually took me two years to actually make the appointment.

What would my life look like if I trusted other individuals stories and successes? How could my life improve and how would I be able to spend my valuable time if I choose not to double check every success stories references? My time would be spent being with my family instead of on the computer searching for the answers that I may never find. My time would be spent planning experiences and praying for success instead of doubt, judgment and worry. This family may never know how they impacted my life and how I now choose to spend my time. They may never know that they are the ones who taught me to trust people and success stories. Let’s learn from each other so we can Relax, Heal and Enjoy!

Why I HATE Nutrition

Why would someone who went to school for 5 years with an emphasis in Food and Nutrition and Exercise Science HATE nutrition? Every health coach’s mission should be for clients to be educated when it comes to their personal health. We should want everyone to live their dream and be healthy and happy. For example this is my mission:

“Live Life Well’s mission is to support individuals in the development and implementation of their wellness purpose statement. Whether clients are beginning a wellness regiment or they are looking for additional support in a current program; Live Life Well can help them to reach their goals with motivation, proper fitness technique, natural energy balancing, nutrition education and additional supplementation.”

As I copy and paste this from my business plan I am also making a mental note to revisit this mission so I can paint a better picture for my clients. Anyway, let me fill you in on why this is also a nightmare.

First, how many of you know someone who is selling or running a fitness and/or nutrition-related network marketing business? This is probably one of your good friends or a close relative. They are very informed and you respect them very much. You have seen them reach all of their goals and now they are excited to share the opportunity with YOU. Not only can you have ultimate heath but you can also earn a pretty substantial income for yourself if you follow the same path. These companies are all fairly genuine and the products they sell are all wonderful but where do these programs fail? They do not offer flexibility, they give off a pushy sales pitch and they unintentionally create defensive thinking. Let’s open all three of these up for conversation.

Flexibility:  You can have a program that tracks calories, controls sugar, increases protein, fluctuates meal timing or simply adds supplementation but when you support one plan you are leaving out client flexibility. The program might be great for one client and terrible for another especially as we start getting into what their bodies need to heal from chronic illness. Now, that is not what your loved one said. They said “I lost 20lbs on this plan and I know you can do the same” or “each plan is created to meet your needs”. Those statements in their entirety just cannot be true: #1. they do not know the clients medical history to determine what is right for them and #2. if the company does have a number of different options they still fall under the same category for program delivery.

Sales Pitch: To make a residual income you have to sell. You have to sell products and you have to sell the wellness program. The distributors are then going to tell everyone they know about the success stories. This is not a problem because they should tell these stories! They are great stories and they are helping many individuals to become healthy and wealthy. Why do I consider this a failure? Everyone knows and I mean everyone! The programs and the stories are everywhere.  You really cannot run from them and if you haven’t been approached already you will be asked to either use the products or sell the plan in the near future. This causes individuals to run and actually become annoyed or frustrated with the stories and the results.

Defensive Mindset: This is where I get really hard on the system. We have so many opportunities to pick from that companies, distributors and clients are now becoming defensive that their way is the only way. This is a terrible phenomenon and I not only see it with clients but also colleagues that are using specific platforms. My plan is better than your plan because …, this shake is better than that shake because…, and finally my story trumps your story because…! Eeek, listen to those phrases. The criticism is not only coming from someone who is just stepping into health and wellness industry but listen to the statements from our professionals mouths. Every success is a success when it comes to improving health. This defensive mindset is driven from an over-saturated industry. End of story!

Second, can the government and our nutrition leader make up their mind? How many ways can we develop the food guidelines to nourish our country? Not to mention statements that leave the public and the media even more confused. I am going to pick on the most recent media headlines based on a statement from the American Heart Association; “SKIPPING BREAKFAST MAY BE BAD FOR YOUR HEART”. This AHA summary is found on page 5 of that statement:

On the basis of the combined epidemiological and clinical intervention data, daily breakfast consumption among US adults may decrease the risk of adverse effect related to glucose and insulin metabolism. In addition, comprehensive dietary counseling that supports daily breakfast consumption may be helpful in promoting healthy dietary habits throughout the day.

Did you hear anything that stated that skipping breakfast may be bad for your heart? You might have to re-read that a few times to understand where the media picked up on that language. Later on page 19 the clinicians is strongly encouraged to follow an intentional approach to eating without ignoring the TEI and macro-nutrient balance for patients. I inserted a table directly from the AHA statement so we can talk about this a little more.

Table 3. Intentional Approach to Eating

Develop an intentional approach to eating that focuses on the timing and frequency of meals and snacks as the basis of a healthier lifestyle and improved risk factor management

Understand the patient’s frame of reference in how he or she may define meals and snacks
Recommend distributing calories over a defined portion of the day
Recommend eating a greater share of the total calorie intake earlier in the day to have positive effects on risk factors for heart disease and diabetes
Promote consistent overnight fast periods
Link eating episodes to influence subsequent energy intake (eg, place snacks strategically before meals that might be associated with overeating)
Include intermittent fasting approaches as an option to help lower calorie intake and to reduce body weight
Use added eating episodes to introduce a wider variety of healthful food options and to displace less healthful foods
Use planned meals and snacks timed throughout the day to help manage hunger and to achieve portion control

This is a great approach and I support everything in the intentional eating approach. I had one red flag when reading this statement in its entirety.  The media found in page 5 that breakfast consumption may be able to prevent heart disease and diabetes. Later, the AHA’s best approach for clinicians is to suggest intermittent fasting to help lower calories and reduce body weight for patients.  If you are not familiar with intermittent fasting you would not question this in the slightest. However, intermittent fasting is consuming calories within a smaller window of time to kick-start fat metabolism. Let’s say the clinician recommends 6-8 hours for arguments sake because each clinician is going to interpret this differently. If you eat breakfast at 7:00 a.m. you will need to stop eating for the day around 1:00-3:00 p.m. to begin the fast. This most likely is not the approach the patient will take nor is it the approach the clinician will recommend. More than likely, they will recommend to “skip breakfast” to have your first meal at 10:00 a.m. with your last meal between 4:00-6:00 p.m. to begin the fast. Now, if you have been watching the news you are going to think the clinician has lost their mind because the media just mentioned that The American Heart Association stated “SKIPPING BREAKFAST MAY BE BAD FOR YOUR HEART”. Confusing, right?

I know that this is a long blog post and if you made it to this point you are truly wondering why I HATE NUTRITION.  Maybe, you stopped wondering and started to realize that this industry is over saturated and very confusing. This industry is not what I signed up myself up for 12 years ago. With these frustrations I took a different road and now instead of coaching on specific diet fluctuation I protect the mind. I protect you from the nutrition guidelines, network marketing programs, media suggestions and public interpretations. What I support is putting a focus on listening to your body and RELAXING YOUR FOOD EXPECTATIONS. Your body will truly tell you what you need to survive and thrive; especially if you listen. Schedule your FREE breakthrough call to determine if working with me will get you to your healing goals. Relax, Heal and Enjoy!

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My Love for Coffee

Listen, I am the last health coach to keep you from adding coffee to your daily routine. I did not grow up in a coffee loving home. My dad didn’t need caffeine to wake up each morning and my mom was a diet soda drinker because in the 80’s and 90’s that was the healthier option. We were only around coffee at my grandparents and at church where everyone else had a pot brewing. Naturally, when I went away to college I did not even think to resort to an early morning cup of coffee. See, up until this point in my life I had not needed caffeine at all to wake up. Just like my dad I was an early riser who couldn’t get enough out of life. Some days, I would need to “rest my eyes” during my lunch break to keep up my energy throughout the day. Other than those days I did not even think about fatigue. It wasn’t until after college and after getting married that I started my adventure with coffee.

I am very clear on when all of that changed for me and it hit me like a Mack truck. My first job out of college was working as an activity coordinator in a small Southern Minnesota health and recreation center. My muscles were sore each and every day and I felt like I had acid running through my body. I attributed it to the daily exercises classes I taught and that I had normal post exercise fatigue. I needed 1-2 hour naps mid-afternoon to keep me going until bedtime. I started to join my morning exercise group in their post exercise cup-of-joe. I learned to love the taste and aroma of coffee. It gave me the energy I needed to push past fatigue and take on the day. My muscles were still sore and my body still ached, however, my mind felt like it used to and I could focus on the tasks at hand.

Over the next 2 years I went from 1 cup every once and awhile to a pot of coffee every day. I could not function without the stimulating effects of the caffeine and I craved the aroma and taste. I say two years not because I am fresh out of college but because another life changing event happened. My husband and I became pregnant. We were so happy even thought I was so sick. I couldn’t look at coffee, hamburger meat, my husband’s deodorant or vegetables without throwing up. I took a few sips here and there just to keep my headaches at bay. I thought this was a blessing in disguise since, at that time, minimal amounts of caffeine were recommended during pregnancy. After my son was born, I had the same outlook on caffeine while nursing. By this point I was not drinking coffee at all. I was drinking Ensure shakes and with a high calorie diet to keep my body nourished to nurse. I was struggling getting in the food I needed to feed both of us correctly. I was diligent and determined for 13 months postpartum.

My year without coffee: I had a terrible first pregnancy with 8 months of vomiting, thyroid imbalances regulated with levothyroxine, little weight gain and fatigue. I also had a terrible time postpartum. I did not feel sad and I did not feel depressed but I did search for solutions with my family practitioner for fatigue. Coming up short to find the solution; I soon became defeated. I gave up my search and now looking back I realize what happened to get me past that failure: COFFEE. I stopped nursing after 13 months and I started drinking coffee again.

I drank coffee over next two pregnancies. It was a little more acceptable in the mommy world three years later. I had a toddler to chase around and couldn’t afford to be tired with these pregnancies. While nursing my second child I decided to stay home with my children and open a home daycare. I took my family on a gluten free nightmare to heal some toddler ailments. It did heal some digestive issues and we were feeling pretty good health-wise in our home. I never cut out coffee at this time so I may have missed or masked some aspects of my gluten free healing. With the challenges of a gluten free diet and kindergarten approaching we decided to get back to a mindful healthy diet with minimal amounts of gluten. All of this information is a whole new topic so let’s get back to coffee.

As a health coach I have done many detoxes in my life and I have cut out coffee from time to time. What I did during those week long challenges, that I did not do in my year without caffeine, is turned to green or black tea. I still had the stimulating effect each and every day. Recently, as I was preaching to my group support class about how caffeine and coffee can mask stress symptoms, and I decided it was time for another coffee cleanse. Instead of resorting to teas I decided to find out what the ugly truth I was hiding.

Let me tell you… I have been ignoring my body for the last 6 years. I am writing this after 6 days completely stimulant free. Even writing 6 days seems so silly because what is a week and what can a week tell you about your body? I have went 6 years masking symptoms of fatigue, brain fog, a very annoying eye twitch, depression and constipation. YES, that is how my week has panned out and is exactly why I grabbed a Saturday morning coffee. Over the last six year I have been researching and studying alternative health options for myself and my kids so I don’t think I would be where I am today without coffee. I do have knowledge and direction on where I will go to clear myself of these symptoms without turning to caffeine. I am patiently awaiting BIE kits to arrive in the mail. Until they get here I am going to drink my coffee so I can eliminate these terrible symptoms until they are delivered to my office. I find it very difficult to focus with an eye twitch! In a few weeks I will be on the road to another coffee detox and I will again find out the ugly truth about what I am masking. I will keep you updated on my success. Relax, Heal and Enjoy!

What in the world is BIE?

BIE is a simple, natural and non-invasive modality that helps enable one’s body to achieve balance (homeostasis) without the use of needles or drugs. The patented modality uses bio-energy principles. The GSR-120 unit is used to direct energy directly onto various points on the body to help create homeostasis, therefore alleviating suffering.

Your body’s internal balance is so important that most disease is regarded as a result of its disturbance, a condition called homeostatic imbalance. Homeostasis is a state of equilibrium; or stable internal balance of the body. In general, the body is in balance when its needs are being adequately met and is functioning smoothly. Every substance that exists has its own specific energetic frequency. When your body is imbalanced, it may not recognize the energy frequencies of various substances. This ultimately causes stress on the body. The more exposure we have to stressing energies, from foods, electromagnetic fields such as radiations, pollens, dander’s, chemicals, etc., the more we store these stressing energies that lead to homeostatic imbalance. This leads to a multitude of health conditions, including allergic reactions. These discordant energies are simply referred to as stressors.

Stressor Testing is a natural health screening method (known as Biofeedback Analysis) used to obtain information from the body to determine the energetic level of intolerance of a given stressor. Biofeedback Analysis is a natural, non-invasive and painless method that even children feel comfortable with! Once the discordant energies (stressors) are recognized, the body can then differentiate between good and bad, harmful substances or non-harmful substances, and deal with each one accordingly. Consequently, the body’s healing process can begin. To begin the healing process schedule a online health assessment.

BIE practitioners are not medical doctors and do not use medical diagnostic or treatment procedures. All services provided are done for experimental or educational purposes only and do not involve the diagnosing, curing, prognosticating, treatment or prescribing of remedies for the treatment of disease including allergy, or any act, which will constitute the practice of medicine in this country in which a license is required.

Want to hear more? The main BIE website and head Toronto office has tons of valuable information: http://www.bieclinics.com

What should the mommy workout look like?

When I was in high school it was required that my siblings and I participating in at least one musical activity and one athletic activity each season. The point was to keep us busy and away from the T.V. What a great concept and I have appreciated that with each and every phase in my life. I was never the star athlete but I did move my body and I made great relationships in the process. Into college, activity molded and shaped me into where I am today as a health coach. I was able to get in at least one run or workout every day. That was my joy and stress relief.

If you have been on my site or know my story you have already found out that I lost that joy shortly after college. My body ached and my mind was burned out of exercise. Off and on for the last 11 years I have trained and taught classes but never with the passion and motivation as when I was in school. After babies were born and I was looking to get the baby weight off my body felt even worse. I felt very hypocritical in my coaching and started to take a break from my career.

I went on this path to figure everything out and tried to listen to my body in the process. A healthy diet actually made me feel worse and exercise was just intensifying the aching pain. Diet and exercise is all I knew and I truly believed everyone could benefit from a healthy lifestyle. I had a combination of success and failures which took me years to fine tune. I am still on that path but improving daily…my body does not ache and I am starting to control my own mind. It was not one magic pill nor was it diet or exercise that guided me to better health.

I gave up on my physical body and turned to healing my mind since my body was not cooperating. I read self-help books, encouraging posts, memorized scripture, bible studies and even quantum physics. I was feeling pretty good but no matter what I told myself body was still hurting. No one knew it and I tried to get back into a routine only to fall short. As a new mom, I could use the excuse “I have no time for exercise or meal preparations”. However, as a coach I knew that was a very polite way to tell myself… I don’t want this to work out.

After tackling my mind I was able to get my act together and work at healing my body. It took courage, motivation and money but I found out what worked for me. After receiving my BIE Practitioners license I still had work to do as far as how was I going to apply this healing tool to my stress symptoms. The body is complicated and we all react in a slightly different way.

I had reached a point in my healing where I could say that my body was ready to tackle physical change. It wanted to make sure I was ready before heading down this road again; I did not want to fail again. I appreciate the way I feel now more than ever and with every workout I thank the Lord for my success. I wake up early to teach class before my kids ask for my attention and over the weekend I do not even think about lifting a weight because my home needs attention. My point in telling my story is to comfort you and reassure you that you are not alone. If you ache for three months because you started a workout, guess what, it is either not the workout for you or your body is not ready. THAT IS OKAY!

A mommy workout should have a purpose. If your purpose is to maintain a healthy happy life and exercise gives you pain or an acid/alkaline diet causes depression you are steering away from that main goal.  Heal your body first and have compassion for the way you feel. Relax, Heal and Enjoy!